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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you're being dramatic and reading too much into this.

"a woman I thought was my friend forgot my bday."

Maybe she didn't forget - maybe she just didn't want to bother you and doesn't consider you to be a close friend. That's not insulting or bad.

Maybe she was busy - you never know what other people's lives are really like.

Either way, to position as "woman I thought was my friend" is really reductive and juvenile. If she's your friend she's your friend. Don't be petty. You seem to have other friends, so stop keeping score and taking notes and enjoy your friends without strings attached.

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I think you're missing the point since the presumption this was someone who was becoming a close friend. And not remembering someone's birthday due to being "busy" is just sad. Busy isn't a shield.[/quote]
But[b] birthdays aren’t everything to everyone.[/b] OP heard from lots of friends on her birthday and instead of being happy about that, she’s focusing on the one person who didn’t say anything? That’s silly and, yes, overblown. [/quote]

This.  
Birthdays aren't a big deal to me.  They weren't a big deal in my family growing up.  We got maybe one gift.  I had one friend party that I remember (when I turned 16!)  I grew up in a loving household in middle America.  
It just wasn't how we rolled (and lest it appear I was hurt by this--no, not at all! I loved my family. Life was good.  I had an awesome childhood).

Anyway, I still don't care about my birthday and I'm 49.  Some years I don't even remember it (AT ALL) until my husband mentions it when he texts me at 9am or at lunchtime (when we're already both at the office--he leaves before I wake up).

I have a best friend here in DC.  We text daily.  I would give her a kidney, raise her children, if she passes, help her bury the body and vice versa.   I don't even know when her birthday is and she doesn't know mine.  We have been incredibly close for 5 years. 
Cleary she is not a birthday person either.  We are otherwise both warm, kind, social women.  Just not birthday people.  [/quote]

Also I should add that we've joked about how our "birthday gift to each other is that we don't have to remember each others' birthdays. "  To us non-birthday people this is a gift![/quote]

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