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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see a lot of judgment going both ways here. I hate these SAHM v. working mom debates because they are so unproductive. I can also always see both sides because while I work, I do so part time in a highly flexible job, so though I do balance work and kids, my day to day schedule resembles a SAHM much more closely, especially since with school age kids, I also use a lot of the time I'm not working to do household tasks like cleaning, organizing and food prep.

All work matters.

The work that SAHM does with her kids and around her house matters. It is not less important because it's unpaid. It's really important. But OP's work is also important, and the money she earns for her family is important. It is ridiculous to judge the SAHM for working in her garden or spending time with her kids, and it's ridiculous to judge OP for utilizing quality childcare for her kids so that she and her husband can work. I should also note that the care providers who are taking care of OP's kids at before care and aftercare also matter.

This is a story about two families who have found arrangements that work for them. There's no child abuse or neglect involved. Beyond that, it's a matter of personal preferences and values, and people are entitled to their difference of opinion. But the amount of judgment running both directions on this is all about insecurity and ignorance. None of us has any idea why other families make the choices they do. They might have different resources or constraints. I work part-time because I have a chronic illness exacerbated by stress, and when I work full time I get extremely stressed, have flare ups, and everything falls apart. I'm sure there are people who look at my schedule and think "lazy" or "she just doesn't like to work." That's fine, but it's not true.

Leave people alone. Most of us are doing our best.[/quote]

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