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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You give her 90 days to come up with an actionable plan. This is her future, not yours. That plan needs to include: The steps taken to assist with her mental health. This could include setting up an appointment with a therapist. This could also include medication. She needs a career/college plan: She must enroll in community college or get a job. She needs to figure out her living situation. This could include paying your monthly or finding her own place to live. Once that plan is given (within 90 days), she has another 90 days of probation to see it through. If you do not see her being successful, then pack all of her belongings and drive her to a womans shelter. DUECES![/quote] Not how ADHD and depression works with anyone, let alone an 18yo, who is obviously immature (ADHD does that). SHe's likely at the point where she "cannot just help herself"---she needs the adults in her life to assist with that and to be firm about her getting the help she desperately needs You need to stay on top of it and help her put a plan in place. Make therapy and getting medicated (for ADHD and depression) a key part of it. Until you do that, you will just be running in circles with everything else. Let her know she is loved and you are here to help. I'd suggest a PT job for now. I'd put off any CC until summer/fall. [/quote] +1. You have to address the underlying cause, whether it's immaturity, mental health, or the simple fact that 4-year college isn't for everybody - even smart kids from rigorous schools and competitive communities. No pushing right into jobs and community college until there's been an opportunity for reflection, therapy, medication, or just rest. [/quote]
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