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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]If that revelation happened to me I would immediately suspect there were other incidents of cheating also.  It is highly unlikely he cheated for six months with an ex GF and then stopped and never cheated again after having totally gotten away with it.[/b]

I would not start trying to catch him at it or find evidence however.  I would see a counselor for myself and try to figure out whether I wanted to be married to this guy.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

Meh, I actually think that the fact that it was someone he already knew means it could have been a single incident of cheating (not that he slept with her once, but that she was the only one he has cheated with).

That doesn't make it much better, and I'm so sorry, OP. I can't even imagine how sick I would feel if I learned that. [/quote]

I agree. OP, don’t listen to people here. Sounds like he had some “what if” questions early in your marriage about one specific person, which is consistent with the timeline in which people lost the fantasy and start to think about “did I make the right decision.” And he stopped it / it ended and he stayed with you. If he has been a good husband and father go to counseling alone and together but let it go. He chose you. He chose your family. People are not perfect. Especially men. If he’s otherwise a keeper, keep him. Not saying it will be the same but this is part of growing up sometimes.[/quote]

If all women were like you men would behave sooooo badly. [/quote]

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