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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because society is struggling, children are struggling and our birth rate is falling.

That doesn't mean that their ideas will work, but I think that's why it's coming up.

Also, control of women is a priority for some pundit groups. [/quote]

Agreed. The research is quite clear that children  raised in two parent households fair much better, even when controlling for income. It really does a disservice to children and society to ignore reality.

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Which makes me wonder how “the research” questions get framed. Most children do well when they have strong, stable, ongoing relationships with more than one adult. There are two parent families with unmarried parents.  There are families and households that include very involved extended family members.  How many different types of families did “the research” actually look at?

It really does a disservice to children and society to ignore the reality that there are multiple types of families — and some serious drawbacks to the white western focus on nuclear families which often have extended family and community ties.  
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Amen. More than one adult raising a child is very important but who says that means kids flounder without a nuclear family? I know some people who have have never married but have become important figures in the lives of their nieces and nephews. In fact being part of a strong community before having children might be a bigger guarantee of stability for your children than being married. [/quote]

The research does. This bickering about single parent households isn't helping anyone. Single parent households need more money and help. And marriage lessons to stop doing behaviors of the 3 As and get along better. [/quote]

Weve already had this discussion on this board about this and I recognize your post and statements. We should be focusing on children and outcomes not marriage counseling. This pro marriage stuff is coming out because we are at a cliff when it comes to childrearing and America hates children- in every political action possible, there is no covering up that all policies are anti-children. [url]https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/parenting/why-america-hates-its-children/ar-AA1mzVYn?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=ACTS&cvid=4e808f8bd62244eb85c5704298306a4d&ei=11[/url]

"America's rampant child neglect doesn't stop with its lack of day care. Infants are more likely to die in childbirth in America than in any other rich nation, and US newborns are more likely to grow up in poverty. Millions of children attend public schools that are literally falling apart. Children who are neglected — a loose term inextricably tied to poverty — are thrown into a foster-care system known for its propensity to harm children. The shortage of foster families is so critical that many kids wind up being temporarily housed in settings like casinos, office buildings, and juvenile detention facilities. The US is the only member of the United Nations that hasn't ratified the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, which includes the right to be free from violence and labor exploitation. In Oregon, where I live, children as young as 9 are allowed to do agricultural work, and many states are trying to loosen their already flimsy child-labor protections so teenagers can be forced to work longer hours. The leading cause of death for American children and teens is gun violence."

Marriage is an easy selling point as a solution but its false and reinforces isolationist approaches to national issues. As if the child care crisis is only for single parents (its not) or that foster kids only come from single parents (not true) or that only single parents allow their young children to work (not true).

The first interview even alludes to this 
"marriage has evolved from pretty purely an economic institution to a social institution, a cultural institution, a theoretical joining of soulmates with all that implies. .....Marriage used to be the only game in town. You could not get access to legal rights without marriage. Most women could not support themselves outside of marriage. Most men could not work a full-time job and get their meals made and their house cleaned, and any children they had raised outside of marriage were not protected"

In the absence of providing any real economic changes the pundit class is resorting to marriage - an easy scapegoat. 
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