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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think this is just introvert/extrovert. What OP is describing with the dog is pretty far at one end of the spectrum. OP, if you are not going to be able to be warm and playful and emotionally engaged it is very harmful to the child. I grew up with a mom who also prefered to spend time in her head and was pretty detached. Kids need someone to mirror back their feelings, to be joyful and to be physically affectionate to develop properly. If you are not able to engage on that level with a pet it is not fair to do that to a child. I have spent a fortune on therapy and it will never give me the experiences that kids need. You would really need to be educated and monitor yourself rather than compartmentalize (oh, daddy gives hugs and giggles and love and i sit in the room and shop online). Most people who were abused or neglected have an easier time relating emotionally to pets, it's harder with  a child. An introvert may find parenting more draining but someone who confines pet ownership to scheduling, research and being in the same room, with a social animal, is not likely to be a warm, nurturing parent to a human. Esp if she doesn't want to be.  [/quote]

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