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[quote=Anonymous]I like the idea of sex positivity vs shame about sex, but the only time a man used this term with me was when the scummy best friend of my ex-fiancé tried to make me feel bad about the fact that I broke up with him because I discovered he was a sex addict who had slept with half the people inside the Beltway during our two year relationship.  He literally was on Yahoo personals setting up hookups every single time I was out of town overnight...sometimes 2-3 hookups per night.  But when I dumped him and suggested he needs major therapy, his best friend and the guy's wife each separately confronted me about unfair it was that I was pathologizing his high sex drive and that they had thought that I was an open, sex-positive person, and that he just needed a sex positive partner.

I countered that if that were the case, he would have been open about his sexual activity from the get-go so that I could decide if I consented to a relationship with someone who had a dozen or more extra partners per month.  If he were truly sex positive, he would have been upfront and given me a chance to choose that or not.

Instead, he was a cheat and a liar who wasted my time, trampled on my trust, and risked my life and health so he could escape into the dopamine rush of furtive, shameful sex.  To call that "sex positive" is a joke to me.

Yeah, that would be a huge red flag and an immediate "nope" when online dating.[/quote]

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