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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.[/quote]

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV. [/quote]

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family. 
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.
 
-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially.  When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends.  If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is.  My kids have been fully embraced by other kids.  They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc.  They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come.  They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.  [/quote]

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve. [/quote]

the christmas dance?  He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?)  why was he asked to leave?  
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He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.[/quote]

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults. [/quote]

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP".  You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.  
It isn't rocket science.  If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away. 
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on.  Get a grip.  You are nuts.  [/quote]

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior. [/quote]

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. [b] I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist[/b].  they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home.  He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway.  Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist.  I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club.  But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me.  This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim.  [b]No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him. [/b]

I'm done here.  Happy New Year to all.  [/quote]

Why is there a waitlist? Wouldn't you invite everyone and anyone who paid on time gets to go?  It sounds like this person did pay on time.

Having a "waitlist" like this makes it appear that the hosts are truly gatekeeping and despite sending out an initial invitation to all, those in the "in crowd" are winking in the background - knowing that only "certain boys" are truly welcome.

But maybe I am reading this wrong?[/quote]

it's a large event for kids from many different private schools. They send out a large number of initial invites for a smaller number of spaces because many kids will be busy or not interested in attending.  Then the first XX number of kids who reply with payment get spots.  In our experience it was not a big deal. Everyone who replied and paid within a few days was able to go: members and non members.  Then the dance was no big deal.  Pretty much a non-event all around. [/quote]

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