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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in the suburbs in the Midwest and am very trusting, and have a young daughter so I’m always watching out for HS/college aged girls. I’m also paranoid and do not answer the doorbell after dark if it’s someone I don’t know. We don’t have a Ring doorbell but can easily see anyone at the front door.

DH grew up in a big city but has ADHD and is just a general idiot when it comes to common sense. He is terrible at thinking on the fly.

Our doorbell rang at 10 pm and DH answered it because I was upstairs. It was a young  girl who was between 17-20. We live in a city neighborhood but on a very quiet dead end that’s only a cut-through for neighborhood kids, but I didn’t know her. The girl asked if she could use our bathroom. DH was in the process of letting her inside  (down to tell her which direction the bathroom was in) m when I came down and was like, I’m sorry, but I’m not ok with this and you need to leave. I was nice but firm and she was polite in return.

We are blocks away from encampments and large transit stops and in an area with a lot of recent forced entry breakins. We also have a nice stand of bushes and trees at the end of the block that would afford a lot of privacy should someone need an emergency pit stop.

Maybe she was an innocent girl who needed a bathroom? Maybe she was looking for prescription drugs, money or jewelery (all of which were in or en route to the bathroom!)? Maybe she had accomplices who were going to come in while my DH stood like a moron with the door wide open?

Anyway, I did the right thing, right? The only time I remember strangers asking to use a bathroom is when I was in middle school and we were playing softball on a remote field backing into a subdivision with zero trees to hide behind. My teammates rang a doorbell to ask a family to use their bathroom. And this was in the 1980s in Ohio.[/quote]

Can we talk about OP's DH?  Mine is the same regarding opening the door, and he will also turn on all the lights in the house, just before opening the door wide. He would invite anyone and everyone in.  Unfortunately, I am not exaggerating. I worry about the safety of my kids. Why do people who do this, do this?  Is it ADHD or something else?  He just doesn't get it, but I know his 4'9" mom is the same, and they grew up in a not great neighborhood. I feel like they should know better.  Is it lack of common sense? It must be more than that, to be so insistent on answering the door. [/quote]

It's called the absence of paranoia.

What horrible things happened in your lives that have caused you to be so afraid of everyone?

And why are you apparently so convinced in the security of a locked door?[/quote]

No. It’s called intelligence, which sadly, you lack.[/quote]

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