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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What problems could it possibly cause “down the road”?  I’m genuinely asking you.

I didn’t change my name, partly because I have an established professional license and publications in my maiden name, partly because I didn’t want to give up part of my identity while he kept his.  Seems an unfair way to start things out.  I suggested that both of us change our names (to his mom’s maiden name) and he didn’t want to do that.  He also didn’t pressure me to change to his name.  I might have changed it at least for personal use if his surname was an easy one, but it’s not (neither is my maiden name).  Oh well.

PS - 15 years in, three kids with his surname, and no problems because of it.[/quote]

No one cares about your profession maiden name, Hillary Clinton took the last name and she's as lib and professional as they get.[/quote]

Yeah, I think it's actually not a huge deal. I am a reporter with many publications and when I got married, I changed my name and byline. I could still use the old pieces in my portfolio , but The things I published since then are also way better (because I'm more experienced.) You will always be judged based on recent history, and you have new work history and publications attached to your new name. It's a non issue IMO.

I changed it so that I could have the same last name as my kids, and it is a very useful shorthand for "we are related." Also I'm a brownish skinned woman with a white husband and white-passing kids; I have cousins who have different last names than their kids in the same situation and they needed special documentation to fly internationally with just their kids. [/quote]

I’m the PP originally quoted: I don’t expect either of you to care about my maiden name.  That’s not the point.  While it may not be that hard for a reporter to change her byline, it is a royal PITA for most licensed healthcare professionals, which I am.  Of the others I know who are close friends and colleagues, almost none of them changed their names if they married post-licensure.  That’s mostly true of the academics with whom I work, as well.  Moreover, I’m sharing my experience, not asking for approval.

I could understand feeling differently if we were an interracial couple.  [/quote]

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