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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For my ILs brown liquor is definitely part of it, but it’s really about marking the beginning of the evening by coming together and sinking down into a cozy living or family room and just talking a bit with each other. Then we’ll head to the table for dinner, and then back to the sofas after dinner to keep the conversation going. They’re very social. I think it’s a wonderful routine.[/quote]

Why does alcohol need to be a part of that routine? My sister and her husband do not drink, and they have nice ways of transitioning from one part of the day to the other, including the transition into dinner time/evening. I don’t understand why “brown liquor” must factor in for there to be “coming together and sinking down into a cozy living or family room.”

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Ok I see a lot of people arguing about noisy teetotalers and such and haven’t read all of it, but I wrote the post you responded to and am just coming back to this thread.

As I said in my post, I have observed that when my ILs host, it quite often involves them pouring bourbon or scotch *for themselves*, but I never said that alcohol “must factor” into it. In fact it’s quite the opposite.

I also rarely drink. There is a teetotaling uncle. There are always cousins around—obviously the children and teens aren’t drinking. Some of the recent grads don’t drink much either. “Drinks at 5” can mean flavored bubbly water, tea, whatever you want, along with some finger foods. Just means the party is starting then.

Again, as I quite literally said in my post, it is more about coming together at the end of the day in a cozy space to have a chat before dinner. If my ILs who are hosting want to pour themselves a preferred drink in their own home during that time, and if alcohol often factors into that routine for them, it is totally fine with me. Not sure why you are so bothered and aggro about it. Do you get really snarky when people offer you wine at dinner, too?[/quote]

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