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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I have four kids. I don’t tell DD she is quirky, or describe her that way, but she is definitely someone who has very specific things she is interested in.

For example, for her Halloween costume she’s a person from a biography she read last year (the equivalent of a Nobel prize winning scientist). My other kids are going to be more typical things like super heroes, black cats, witches, etc. There is nothing wrong with her choice - we should definitely celebrate scientists! - but it’s an unusual choice.

Looking for a place where she can be herself and blossom, and not sure that’s her current school. We are otherwise happy with her school, so only want to move her if it would be a better “fit.” But of course I’m wondering if all the schools are really pretty much the same (in terms of kids personalities), which is why I am posting.[/quote]

OP the point is, to kids, quirky is a pejorative term. I suggest you drop it from your vocabulary [/quote]

Agree and agree. Drop the label. Most people use "quirky" as code for ASD and extreme hyperinterest + poor manners. As if one excuses the other.

OP's examples are not "quirky" or unique. She sounds like a nice, sweet, smart kid. Who isn't have any social nor academic issues at her current school. [/quote]

Your disdain for neurodivergent people is really jarring, pp. [/quote]

I often wonder if parents are guilty of pushing their kids to be "quirky" because they like the idea. There are offbeat kids or whatever terminology we want to use but now that I'm a middle aged adult and looking back across my life at the quirky/offbeat people I knew, life has not really been as kind to them as it is to more straightforward kids. Society rarely rewards quirkiness.

It doesn't mean you shouldn't have wide-ranging or niche interests but kids who take on the concept of quirkiness as their identity are most likely hurting themselves in the long run. [/quote]

DP. [b]Nobody voluntarily “takes on” a “concept of quirkiness.[/b]” It’s a temperament just like introversion or extraversion. It’s also not contagious. And you must not know many professors if you don’t know any quirky successful people who focus on niches. [/quote]

This is absolutely false. Kids are searching for an identity. Some parents love the idea of having an "odd" child, and push that label/ identity onto a kid or two, usually from an early age. i have seen it in my own family - one child celebrated for being the oddball. Sadly, that person has had a more difficult life than her siblings and is still a bit of a mess even today.[/quote]

I have never witnessed this. What an … odd thing to believe! seems like an excuse for you to indulge in your dislike of quirky people. (One reason I am keeping my yes, quirky, kid out of mainstream privates, to stay away from judgemental conformists.)[/quote]

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