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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand your DH's rule, due especially to younger siblings, and I think your daughter has every right to do what she plans to do but I still think she is being a brat.  It's only a few days and for the sake of family harmony and facilitating a good relationship between her SO and her parents, I think she should be more flexible.  FWIW, I have been in almost the exact situation with my daughters and they always respected our house rules (even if they didn't like them).[/quote]

Part of facilitating a good relationship between her partner and her parents is setting boundaries. Her BF is forgoing the holidays with his own family to spend time with hers. He's traveling and staying away from his own home. He's being shoved into a den to sleep on a pullout couch alone, with no privacy, in the home of strangers.

I applaud OP's daughter for setting a healthy boundary and supporting her partner, while also respecting her parent's rules. And understand, this IS her respecting your rules. Your husband said no room sharing, she said okay, we'll stay at a hotel. She's still coming to spend the holiday with you, but she is also showing that her partner's needs will be a priority as well.

You should be proud, OP. You've raised a productive independent adult who can think for herself, and has her own moral compass, despite outside pressure. [/quote]

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