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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He sees it as a waste of money and he’s kind of right. You want to keep up with the Joneses or some shit like that.

I bet you watch a lot of HGTV[/quote]

Haven’t had cable in 10 years. [/quote]

I don’t get why everyone always thinks that wanting a nice, new home is because they need to keep up with the Joneses.

When I was younger I was bullied by my peers mercilessly. Home was the only safe place for me. My mom always had it decorated beautifully and it was my own little piece of peace.

My home is now the most beautiful place I’ve ever stepped foot in, because I want it to be an escape from the world. It has nothing to do with impressing my neighbors. [/quote]

I agree. I’ve fought with my DH for more than a decade about this. He views a house as a mere storage locker for one’s stuff. I want a beautiful sanctuary. But he hasn’t wanted to spend the money because he thinks I’m trying to impress my friends. He refuses to accept that I just want this for myself.[/quote]

So the thing is -- you can decorate beautifully without remodeling. You can make a home a sanctuary without remodeling. Be honest about wanting $100k in remodeling upgrades vs. fresh paint, dreamy curtains and throw pillows. Come on. Neither of you is being denied a chance to have wonderful spaces. [/quote]

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