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[quote=Anonymous]It really helps when you stop thinking that they are screwing at you and reacting.  You need to step outside the situation and realize that they are screaming because they can't handle their emotions.  The screaming isn't because of you no matter whatever you did or said prior to the screaming. An emotionally healthy person would deal with their emotions without screaming.  They are screaming because of them, not because of you.

Once you step out of the situation, you are less likely to shut down.  You can try to help them find words for their emotions, for instance by saying things like, "Gosh, you must be so mad. I can hear how mad you are.  Let me know when you're ready to talk and we can try to find a solution.". You can also make suggestions or help them calm down if that helps them.

My kids also absolutely know the rule that parents can't ever say yes when they're yelling.  It's in the parent handbook--if you say yes to a yelling kid, you teach them to yell and that's not allowed.  If they yell at me, I'll tell them they know the rule and the answer is no.  But if they calm down they can try again when they are ready.[/quote]

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