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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am divorced and DCs have a good, positive relationship with exILs. For years they said that once they go to college, they have money set aside for them and that (their words) "they should be fine". Well, lo' and behold, my eldest got accepted into college. For the past 2 weeks I've been trying to have a conversation with exILs about college, tuition, room/board. They acted all surprised when DC called them to let them know he got accepted. I do have 529 plans for all my kids but again, they made both verbal and written promises (via emails and texts) they would contribute to their college education. They are dodging my calls and texts, they are now dodging his calls, and these are the same people who used to text or call several times a week. No, they are not ill or on vacation.

Are they trying to renege on their promise? Is there anything I can/should do? This is awkward. I certainly didn't force them to make these promises but hey, put your money where your mouth is. [/quote]

It would appear these were just words and you have nothing in writing.  I would write them s letter reminding them of their inference of financial assistance for their grandchildren''s college.  See if, or how, they respond..

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That would be so trashy. OP asked and they have been avoiding her. Isn't that lthe answer? Why do you want to browbeat a few senior citizens about something they are probably embarassed and ashamed about? YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO ANYONE ELSE'S MONEY.[/quote]

You know what, these grandparents/senior citizens made promises.  No one made them make promises.  It is really pathetic to make promises to make yourself feel important and generous and then just ignore your grandchild, to whom you made this promise, when they ask you about it.

They were not entitled to the gratitude they grabbed by making these promises.

It is absolutely true that the OP is clearly on her own.

The lesson here is about choosing the parent of your children wisely, how do we teach that to our children?[/quote]

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