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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to hear women’s opinion regarding the point I am making below.

If out of every 100 Bachelor degrees 74 are awarded to women and since college degree earners earn more than non college degree earners then how are those men with only a high school education supposed to climb the ladder. Soon women will make more than men and if we go by the attitude of the women on here regarding men who earn less than women then our society is in trouble. Some of the assumptions that these men will offer *nothing* yet expect the higher earning women to still cook, clean, shop, plan etc is not necessarily accurate. Men today know that women expect them to take on an increasing share of household responsibilities and most are doing so but somehow it is dismissed. The patriarchy does not benefit all men. It benefits a few men who are at the top of the economic ladder. So I think higher earning women should be more open minded about dating men who earn less. [/quote]

High earning woman here.  I’m middle aged and divorced, educated during a time when those numbers were closer to 50/50.  Ex-H and I traded back and forth who made more during our 20 years together, and that was never an issue.  What WAS an issue is his mother had always taken care of everything for him, so he was kind of helpless. He took on more household responsibilities than his dad did (his dad was an MD and his mom stayed home, so the bar is low) but he always needed instruction and never thought it was his responsibility to OWN the household stuff.  Like, I would plan the menus and do the shopping list.  He could do the shopping, but then if I asked him to start dinner he’d always ask what specifically to do - as if we didnt have the same 10-15 meals week after week.  The ‘mental load’ is exhausting and frustrating, and virtually all of my peers complain about it.  I really hope you’re right that men are taking on an increasing share.  I’m raising my boys to do that, and now that I’m divorced their dad is forced to cook and shop and run a household so they have something of a role model there, but it was definitely not the norm in my generation.[/quote]

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