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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a happily married man I will not encourage any man to be married. Just because I am happily married does not mean I am
Getting a * good deal* like women claim. They always bring up the same set of things that they do us. Here is the deal it’s just not true. Yes our mothers offered all those perks to our dads. Our wives are not. And I am glad they are not because we should be contributing equally to everything. But women today (and in a way I feel bad) are under immense pressure from society (or maybe feminists ) to seek their own happiness (which is good) and men as a result are under a microscope. [/quote]

I did everything on that list every week except meals and those we ordered from a company. I also taught the kids and earned half the money. I don't understand what men want women to be these days. [b]Women are doing most of the working in the US now and the childrearing. [/b]What exactly do men bring to the table comparatively if and I repeat if they aren't making more than the median income? The median income is about $150k around here I believe. What does a guy making say $100k bring to a marriage compared to a woman making the same?[/quote]

This actually isn't true. Reputable studies show that in married couples, men do more work overall when taking into account work outside and inside the home. Look up the Pew studies on working. Women work more hours on average in the home, which is why it seems to women that they do more work--because they don't see the greater amount of work being done by men outside of the house. Of course, this is just averages, and I'm sure we'll get lots of anecdotal responses here from women who swear they do so much more than their husbands.[/quote]

Actually, PP you misrepresent the PEW studies. Quoting directly from the PEW study page, "Taking paid and unpaid work time together, working-age American men and women differ very little in their total work time.....men spend about 10 hours more than women per week in paid work, although women spend about six hours more than men in household work and about three additional hours in child care, bringing the total work time to 45.6 hours per week for men and 45.2 hours for women.

However, men spend more time than women in leisure activities, which includes TV time, playing games, sports and a series of other activities.27 The gender gap in leisure is about five hours per week."

Look at the data breakdown here - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/03/14/chapter-6-time-in-work-and-leisure-patterns-by-gender-and-family-structure/

The PEW study does not state the reason that you claim about how, "it seems to women that they do more work--because they don't see the greater amount of work being done by men outside of the house."  In fact, PEW clearly states women get less leisure time - so perhaps that is why women think they work more - their husbands are out engaging in leisure time more often than the wives do.

Think about what the paid work gap means - women aren't working at paid work enough to get benefits like career advancement, social security and medicare credits, retirement matches, life insurance, independent access to health care, etc.  Instead, women lose paid work salary and benefits and spend many more hours than men doing unpaid work.  Not to mention, of course, that the person who earns more money in the relationship often has or takes more decision-making power.

No wonder women think marriage is a bad deal.

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Pew isn’t an acronym. lol. It is a last name[/quote]

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