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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I look forward to visiting you someday in a large and beautiful home" That's what I would have said. And that's all.

Imho, it's ridiculous to take what they say so seriously and be embarrassed in any way.[/quote]

This!  Boundaries, op.  She is a child.  [b]This should be as real to you as if she said she wanted a pet unicorn[/b].  She is not an adult. She is a child.  You are in charge, not her.  She needs you to be the grownup here.  [/quote]

This is stupid and infantilizing. An 8 y/o knows unicorns aren’t real, but sees first hand their friends in larger homes.

The clock is ticking down on your ability to instill values in your kids. The older they get the more they will look to outside sources to color how they view the world.

Older elementary age is the perfect time to have basic, but honest conversations with your kids about stuff like money, sex, puberty, etc.

I don’t think you need to go as far as showing your kids Redfin estimates and your savings account. But there’s nothing wrong with explaining concepts about location affecting real estate costs, that everything in life involves trade offs, etc. [/quote].

Op here. This is generally my parenting style. I’ve told her she can ask me about anything. My parents were very weird about money and I had no idea how to manage money or why certain financial decisions weren’t great ones until way later in life.

I think it can be explained in a very matter of fact way without any judgement to other’s situations.

For the PPs that said she was jealous or bratty or spoiled … it was said without any envy. More just like “they have a nice house, I wish ours was like that” but said very neutrally. The way she said it is what made me take a very practical approach on explaining it to her.[/quote]

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