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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]hah, you'd laugh at us then. We pay $86 x 3 for private lessons a week. Two kids do tennis, one does gymnastics. We also paid for them to take private skiing and snowboarding lessons back when they were first learning.

However, it actually makes a huge difference in outcome. My daughter was struggling to get her back handspring with a year's worth of group lessons. Nails it in one month of 2 private lessons a week. Now is moving on to a roundoff back tuck. With the skiing - now they can all keep up on black diamond trails. Makes family ski trips more fun for everyone.

Anyway, our fixed expenses are low (no mortgage or other debt) and we make more than enough money to afford all of this so I don't see the problem with it.[/quote]

It’s not the affordability, I think some parents who grew up with less income go overboard.   Why couldn’t she get a basic back handspring?   Did she love it or was it your idea.  I bet your kids could have been successful on the black diamonds trails on their own after gradually moving up once they mastered the small trails.  That’s what my kids did.

Just because you can afford private lessons doesn’t mean that should be your first thought.  They’ll feel a lot more accomplished if they didn’t feel like they always needed one on one training when other kids don’t. [/quote]

I agree--it really depends if the kid is interested/wants the extra help.  However, for some things, it is definately worth it.  If you can afford it, when your kid starts a musical instrument (strings or brass/woodwind) in school, get them 3 months of private lessons.  Why?  Because instruments are so much more fun/enjoyable once you sound "decent" and get past the "it's grating on my nerves sounds".  Also, your kid will learn the proper techniques and not have to unlearn bad habits.

One kid started on clarinet with lessons immediately---there was only 2-3 weeks where the dog hid and everyone wanted earplugs, after that they were sounding fairly decent.  That is a huge boost to them and meant they actually wanted to practice and enjoyed it.

Fact is band directors are amazing, but they can only teach an instrument so well in a large group setting.  The band director may be a trumpet player, so teaching clarinet or flute is relying on their 10-12 week single class for "woodwinds" for knowledge.

Only disadvantage to that is your kids will be a bit bored in band class for the first year.  
Did this with all of my kids.  Last one had 2 years in DCUM on their instrument, then we moved somewhere that band started in 6th grade.  My kid could have been first chair in the 8th grade band in 6th grade, but we put them into 7th for social reasons.  they did 7th during 6th and then 8th during 7 and 8th.  They were easily first chair all 3 years (and they did not take lessons anymore during this time).  But the foundation of 2 years of excellent lessons gave them the knowledge base to be first or 2nd chair all the way thru HS.  [/quote]

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