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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The underlying assumption in many posts is that a girls virginity is valuable by itself and she shouldn’t compromise her purity, values or morals by having sex too early. Somehow that argument is never made for the boy.

Sorry, but we’re not living in the 1950s anymore. Plenty of teenagers start their sex life in high school and end up as well functioning adults. [/quote]

That is NOT the same interpretation I came away with from this thread. At all.

This has nothing to do with this girl’s virginity value and everything to do with the fact that she doesn’t want to have sex [b]right now[/b]. 
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But this is not about "right now". She is ruling it out completely until some arbitrary point in time. She has a right to do so, obviously[b], but it is unusual for a girl who nevertheless wants to have a boyfriend[/b].[/quote]

I completely disagree. I guess we have different circles, but why is it unusual to enjoy someone's company, but not want to have sex? They are teenagers and sex complicates things.

Even adults who date set an arbitrary point in time to make sure they are comfortable in a relationship before sex. There are plenty of teens in my life with boyfriends/girlfriends who don't want to have sex. Some do, but it's far from unusual to want a boyfriend without sex as a teen.[/quote]

- then he is not really a boyfriend; he’s just another friend.[/quote]

I guess it boils down to:  what does "of any kind" mean?

Bc if they go out to the movies or sit together at lunch and text, but there's not even any kissing, then that's just a best friend.

But if there is kissing, but it stops there, then its still a BF.

But to be honest, it would also be perfectly normal (and acceptable), if this BF heard the boundaries and said "I respect your boundaries, but they're not for me"

Which is okay.  A break-up like that can happen where nobody is at fault[/quote]

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