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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. Thank you so much for everything. It pushed me to realize that regardless of anything else, I needed to go to the school. Met with the principal this morning, my daughter gave a statement. I think she was really upset, but overall she did great and I hope it helps her feel better.

Side note, the boy was also doing this to another girl, so I'm glad I brought it up for the boy's sake (so he can stop and not get worse, I hope).

I was very happy with how the principal handled everything with my daughter, so we'll see. Thank you again.[/quote]

So glad you went in person, so glad you met with the Principal, so glad your daughter spoke up.

All those calling for you to call the police right away are clueless about responses that cause more harm and chaos and get in the way of resolving this and keeping a kid safe, vs. actually setting everyone up for responding as best they can while also knowing how to escalate it if you need to.  OP's daughter would have been further traumatized having to talk to police and then dealing with a school full of people pissed at her mom for over-reacting without first actually making sure more than the teacher knew what happened and finding out what if anything is being done about it.

OP you also modeled that you are going to go to bat for your kid while listening to them and their concerns as well. And hopefully she found out that she was believed, that it was a problem with another girl too, and that she did the right thing.

I still think getting her to a therapist, or maybe booking a session with the school counselor and you and her is a good follow up, so she gets to talk about how reporting it felt and get ideas about how she might handle it if anyone else bullies her, says mean things like calling her fat, or makes fun of her.  It is HUGE to help her think about these things in advance even if she freezes again next time, because at least she's got more context and knows her options better, and knows you have her back.

Well done Momma! And well done to your DD too, and the Principal.  Now just make sure whatever the Principal said would happen, happens.[/quote]

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