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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Obviously this is your call to make, not your children's, but since you asked for input...

I've noticed that returning home (real home) from college can be very grounding and comforting to adult children. The stability of being able to return the place that is home to them---not simply the structure, but the surroundings, the roads, the places they like to frequent, and of course, their high school friends.  There's a comfort to it which shouldn't be underestimated.  A sense of place that provides a sense of comfort coming from the adjustment and chaos of living in a dorm or college apartment.

Removing that sense of place can be hard on some kids.  Some more than others. Knowing your kids, you would be the best judge of how much that might impact them.

Ideally, if you can, I'd wait a few years to provide that sense of stability and grounding during a time of transition. Eventually it becomes less important, even if still meaningful. I think it's an easier change for them to adapt to after they establish their adult lives post-college and make a more permanent move to a place of their own. Or even after 2 years of college.

That decision is a luxury of course, and if you have to move, you have to move.  But if it's a choice with flexibility, I'd wait a few years.[/quote]

+1 OP, it is okay to make a choice for you, that would be completely valid. And, what this poster shares is very true in my experience. My Aunt and Uncle moved for a job right when my cousin started college and to be honest, it was quite destabilizing for him. Though it was a new state so that made a difference. But he would tell you it was pretty hard. He got through it, as your kids would so it doesn't have to be a complete dealbreaker but it took him awhile to get his feet under him in college and that was certainly a piece of it. And then he would say he never really felt like he had a "home" since high school. Which is just really de-stablizing for a young adult.

If you can wait a few years, it may be worth it but it really does depend on your kids as well. You know your kids best. Some kids will do just fine with this. others it will be harder. My sense from your post is it may be quite hard on yours since they are deeply connected to the place you raised them and are still building those relationships. I am still close with my high school friends and it has been a very stablizing set of relationships in my life so I have to admit I'm sensitive to that.[/quote]

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