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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’re missing a critical detail. Why was Kelly kicked out? I agree the targets social awkwardness can precipitate this, but so can jealousy. Is Kelly very pretty? Wealthy? [/quote]

Why would this matter?[/quote]

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PP. I realize now this looks like I’m trying to blame Kelly. I’m not. I’ve been Kelly twice, once in high school and again in graduate school, so it probably reflects my own ruminations about my personal experiences.

In my case, it was long simmering, deep seated jealousy. (It took me years to admit this, because who wants to be the girl who thinks everyone is jealous of her?!) In both cases, I had something another person wanted (supportive parents and then a strong career + high earning spouse), had a minor misunderstanding or disappointment, and got totally iced out of a group. It hurts, very deeply. I spent years wondering what had happened. It took me a long time accept that those people had disliked me for a very long time and when they finally got a chance to push me out, even over something trivial, they seized it. [/quote]

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