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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why wouldn't your DH be the one to "deal with them" anyway? When my MIL comes to visit,  the timing etc doesn't stress me because she is DH's cross to bear. Makes her sound like a bad thing, I know, which she's not. She's just his responsibility rather than mine. [/quote]

SIL here. I like to believe I am not high maintenance but I do require being given the sheets and maybe a cup of tea and some food on arrival (o visit my brother once a year). 
We always used to have a good relationship with my SIL, but I think she started “making me my brother’s responsibility” lately (maybe for the last couple of years?)
It looks weird and makes her look like a bad host and unfriendly person.
I am not a super hostess myself but it doesn’t bother me to make my guest comfortable and offer tea and maybe some snacks or food. I don’t get it when people act all put out by such huge tasks.

This is not meant as an argument with OP or PP, just an observation. It’s not that hard to be a minimally good host. Not serving hand and foot on anyone but just being friendly and providing initial basic supplies. [/quote]

What’s wrong with your brother that he’s not offering you tea or making you comfortable? Is he a quadriplegic, or what? Why do you expect hospitality from someone with a vagina and not your brother, hmm?[/quote]

Oh, he does. It’s just that it’s so obvious how she is now “leaving everything to him”, it’s eyeroll worthy. 
She then eases up and becomes herself (I.e. does some things when she is around and leaves others to her DH/my brother when it’s convenient for them) but it’s just funny how she tries to be this modern woman who is letting her husband take responsibility for his family :) by leaving until tea is served lol [/quote]

You don’t like her, she doesn’t like you. So you’re the hero in this story and she’s the villain, why? [/quote]

I wouldn’t say we don’t like each other. She just decided she won’t bring the sheets or make tea on the first day! Maybe I offended her but I think she just decided to be this new woman lol 
Again, she was never the only one serving on everyone else. We all do a bit of something. It’s just those first couple hours, maybe even an hour that looks weird.

But yeah I don’t show up early. 
What I am saying is - it’s the elderly anxious people. Ok they showed up early. Be friendly for 5 minutes, leave, maybe make an easy lunch, that’s it. I don’t get what this is all about. Unless they truly expect to be served on, hand and foot.

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Honestly you are not making any sense.  You are noticing that it’s your brother who is bringing you sheets instead of his wife and that is eye roll worthy?   What am I missing?[/quote]

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