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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should say ok unless you happen to ge super good friends with the mom and it would sever that friendship

Fwiw DD started at a new school in 4th and I met a new mom and heard some awful stuff about the dad. There was a protective order for a while etc. I formed an opinion ahead of time. Then I met the Dad and he’s great with his kid, super social with other parents, brings the kid to parties if it’s his weekend etc. I don’t k is the true story so I just do my best to get on with both of them. [/quote]

Lady you never know what transpired in private. Many are good at masking. My ex could put on a father of the year show but he hit me and my kid repeatedly and screams insane abuse behind closed doors.[/quote]

Reality is that can be true of anyone. You don't even know what your best friends or siblings do behaind closed doors. They could be evil incarnate to their spouses or their kids. You don't know if any mom or dad you know is abusive or controlling or mean or has an anger problem or drinks too much etc. You actually don't know anyone fully given you aren't with them all the time. All we can do is work with the information we have.

And many people are fine when around others. My SIL has a serious anger management issue and can be very cruel and mean to my brother and to her kids. But she is bubbly and fun and charming when others are around so any of her kids friends are perfectly fine coming to their house, she would never rage at them. Her friends all know her as a fun and outgoing and happy person - they never see her other side but she is still a good friend to them. Abusive in one setting often doesn't translate across settings. [/quote]

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