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If you're on anti-depressants and you are that miserable...

... you won't be very happy elsewhere, OP.

Moving is not a magic pill. You're trying to run away from yourself. Fix what's wrong instead, and if you want, you can also move. But treat the two separately, because they are separate. I think your husband understands this about you, hence his moving the goalposts - which, BTW, isn't cool either. But he probably can't articulate what's wrong with your scenario because he's too close to the situation.

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DP here and this is not true. The weather, the natural surroundings, the people (such as family), the available activities can make a big difference. It is possible that she would be unhappy anywhere, but there are a lot of people that don't like DC for a reason.

For me, I find it logistically difficult. Our families live out of state, so we miss out on most of their get-togethers and celebrations, and if we want to visit we have to fly our whole family cross-country. We can't just make a last-minute weekend visit. As our parents age I really don't know what we'll do. 
Also, my DH is stressed out and grumpy from his job and commute, and somehow he can't see what it's doing to him. I know we might not find a better situation somewhere else but it sounds like people are happier when they move to lower-cost, lower-stress areas. [/quote]

OP - Thank you. This sums up my situation to a T. I have always been close to my family and living away from them means that I miss out on the little things that fill up my cup. [/quote]

The unsupportive posters know this, and likely do not live too far away from their own family.  [/quote]

I'm the poster who posted that OP would likely not be happy elsewhere and that she was running away from herself. My family lives in Europe, Asia and the Middle East, and we am here in DC. My husband's family is in Europe and Asia.

We never had help with our kids when they were little. Now they're in college and high school. We've lived through a lot of good and bad stuff, and this is why I can tell OP that she has to work on herself now, because moving back home isn't the same as visiting. You can never move back home once you've left. Visiting has all the shine of nostalgia and family goodwill. Not so when you actually need to make a living there, and raise your kids, and look after your parents, and deal with the rest of the relatives.
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