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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it's hard, I also have a 4 yo and hate pretend play, as well as have history of PPD.

First of all give yourself some grace - ALL that you're doing is important, even parts that feel like chores.

Here are a few things that help:
- therapy (we get triggered by parenthood, often reliving some of our own unresolved childhood issues). At minimum it helps to understand and accept why some parts of parenting don't feel like you thought they might.

- you are giving your DH a pass on chores, as many PPs pointed out. Why is that?  "doing laundry" without putting it away means just pushing a button. It's not a thing. Folding and putting away is the biggest time suck. Have a frank discussion about chores. There is zero reason he can't go and get groceries but you must do it while doing childcare too.

- outsource. it costs, but it's not forever, and you both work (and considering a private schooling route). Figure out what you want to do the least and pay for it. Meal delivery, cleaning service, more babysitting, whatever. Buy yourself more me-time. It's OK, you deserve it, it will feel 100 times better once you have it.

- [b]I am married to a Catholic, and will say this without any malice. A religion that incorporates a lot of guilt, placed especially on females, might not be your best move until you dig yourself out of the current funk. You can send your child to a Catholic school even if one of the parents is not catholic.[/b] 
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How is this said without malice?  You assumed the worst about a religion you don't understand (being married to a Catholic does not automatically mean you understand Catholicism).

I would actually make more sense for OP to lean into her spirituality.  It may help put everything in perspective and give you peace and help you let go of the guilt of not always being the perfect mom.  Lean into that community, talk to your pastor, go to church at night after bedtime routine and just meditate for 15 minutes. [/quote]

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