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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My work colleague did - requested a transfer to a new office my firm was opening in Chicago.  To make this happen she divorced her abusive husband and left her three troubled teenage sons on the East Coast.  Moved to Chicago with only her clothes and a bed in her early 40s  - a few years later she met and married the love of her life, and almost 30 years later, they are still married and very much in love.  [/quote]

Those poor children.  :cry: [/quote]

Flipside is that she could have stayed and there was no change in outcome for the sons. Sometimes things are so bad there is nothing you can do to fix it.

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No, the flipslide is she doesn't leave her children with an abusive DH, she gets them out of harms way![/quote]

The post said these were teenagers. We have no other details or context. You and others want to assume she could have "gotten them out of harm's way" as if they were small children. Or that she could have kidnapped them (because yeah, there's such a thing as "parental kidnapping" and she could have ended up in prison, which does her kids no good at all and still leaves them with dad). For all we actually know, they were all old enough that they could have flat out said no to leaving with her, and she couldn't have dragged them off by force. We have no idea whether she tried to get them to go with her, whether the abusive DH had persuaded them to stay with him (and would have convinced a judge the kids wanted to be with him -- teens often are asked by courts what their preferences are re: living with one parent or the other).

I'm not defending the idea of "abandoning your kids" but I am noting a lot of instant, thoughtless reactions to this specific situation. There is nowhere remotely near enough information here for people to be all appalled and attacking that woman they dont' know and never will know. [/quote]

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