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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The RA is paid to handle this crap. Your DD needs to talk to the RA today and tell her the next time the roommate wakes her up, she gets the RA involved. Repeat. And ask for a room change.[/quote]

[b]RA's are not paid.  They might get free room,[/b] but there is plenty of competition for the RA slots, because social kids want the job.

Agree it is an RA question, OP - but the RA is not a parent, any more than your kid is your kid's roomate's parent.

Your kid needs to lay down the law - this room mate needs professional help - there is something going on beyond any other student's (including the RA's) ability.

Did your DC pick this room mate??[/quote]

Try again. You can’t be this obtuse. Getting a pass on room feed IS GETTING PAID. That’s real money. [/quote]

They are still just college kids a$$hole.  Probably just a year or two older than your kid.  So, no this really isn't the RA's "job".  [/quote]

Wrong. This is their job. We were trained to handle disagreements on the floor, mental health concerns,  etc[/quote]

+1. Betcha a lot that the PP who seems so angry at being to that an RA is an actual job is the parent who pushed their kid to take an RA job to “help out, just a little,” and is now uncomfortable to discover the “free” (single) room they aren’t actually free. There is in fact actual (minimal) work involved with the $10k/ year (at my kid’s school) in free room.   Like dealing with hypochondriacs at 3 am.

Don’t worry PP.  Any RA with minimal training will be told to escalate an actual problem. But yes.  RAs do something.  DD’s roommate was being stalked last year, and the guy also threatened DD. The RA was the initial contact point and helped DD report the incident to the right place. And hung out with DD (who was a freshman) while she calmed down, so she wasn’t alone. But various other FT employees of the school responded to the actual issue and provided DD with followup support.

In this case, seems reasonable to hand the roommate to the RA, who can then refer her for physical care or a mental health evaluation.

IB fact “please don’t wake me up unless it’s bad enough to report to the RA.  In fact, please skip me and report these problems directly to the RA” seems like a good approach. The RA will document and escalate them and the roommate wil either cut it out the first time this happens, or find herself being referred to campus counseling, which may be exactly what she needs. [/quote]

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