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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is interesting.  I'm a wife and my husband makes double what I make.  I'd love to quit and SAH and we could afford it, but he doesn't believe in/wouldn't agree to a mentally and physically healthy adult not contributing to family finances once kids are school age.  He does do his fair share around the house and with the kids, which is the only way we have a mostly-happy marriage. [/quote]

Men who feel this way are a red flag. He’s saying he believes women should contribute 75% of the household labor and men 25%.

Almost every family ends up with the mom being the default parent. It’s easy for men to “not see” that labor and therefore pretend it doesn’t exist. These men are the leeches they’re so worried about their spouse becoming.

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I'm the PP.  It's much closer to 50/50 than 75/25 which is, again, the only reason it works (though admittedly I still feel salty about it sometimes).  For example, I haven't made a doctor or dentist appointment, or taken either kid to said appointments, in YEARS (he has way more flexibility during the 9-5 workday so that is one of his "things") and he WFH 2-3 days a week and otherwise has a shorter commute so he does 80% of the cooking.

I don't think it's even the stress of being the sole earner (like a PP mentioned) - I think for him it's just the principal of the matter - he thinks SAHPs are only for rich people, otherwise, both parents work and both parents parent.

Anyway, I know this thread isn't about me, I just found it interesting to hear that some higher-earner wives feel like this too.  [/quote]

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