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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My stepsister had four. After meeting her DH, who (at least for awhile) fancied himself "the prophet of armageddon," she became super religious. It eventually settled down into an extreme form of MAGA non-denominational Christianity. My step sister never worked after meeting this guy, and the cycle continues -- her two oldest daughters were married and had kids while still in their teens. The oldest had her wedding 3 weeks after high school graduation, and she now has two kids and stays at home doing things like baking her own bread. There are all kinds of extreme ideas about gender -- lots of women cook, clean, and sew nonsense. There has been a lot of WIC involved thanks to lack of education and the women not working. The kids were home-schooled until high school (and the thought of my step sister being in charge of teaching anything is a little scary), and the girls were not expected to go to college at all (you don't need it, you only need to know how to cook a pot roast and knit baby clothes!). I'm hoping the two younger kids will break the cycle, but doesn't seem likely at this point -- their form of "Christianity" is pretty controlling.

All of that said, they all seem pretty happy. Wish I could say otherwise, but I can't.  [/quote]

Why do you wish they weren't happy?[/quote]

Right?  WTF?[/quote]

PP didn’t phrase it well, but it’s because religious fundamentalism severely limits the options and capacity of girls in those communities. The parents choose the lifestyle, but the kids born into it don’t and are trapped by authoritarian brainwashing, intentional curtailing of critical thinking, and inadequate education. Then they start having continuous pregnancies starting in their teens or early 20s and have no escape, even if they want it.[/quote]

All kids are “brainwashed” by their families, and I certainly don’t think that the current level of critical thinking on display in our society is anything to write home about, and I don’t know anyone in their right mind who still believes our public education system is adequate.

If the kids grow up happy it sounds like these families are doing something right, quite frankly.[/quote]

Religious fundamentalism is a cult. It’s about control and power. Apples and oranges to public education and regular society.[/quote]

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