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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's really hard to be parents with dual power careers of multiple kids.  Truly.

When they get to 5th/6th/7th grades, you will be carpooling and you need to make sure they are all good on the school fronts.  They get easier in some ways but mentally, it's a lot harder.  When they are young, you need to manage their food/sleep/play date routines.  But the tweens/teens - you have to think about so many things - it really depends on what kind of kids you have and you just don't know that until they are there.

I would definitely suggest considering what life may look like in 5 years in context of your kids.  You may think it's chaos now but let me tell you as a mom to a learning disability 8th grader and a high achieving perfect student but extroverted busy as all hell 6th grader, it isn't easier.  It's different, it's manageable but I don't know that it's "easier" because I have a professional driver to go along with being a breadwinner :)

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Op here. This is helpful perspective. My youngest has SN so that adds a lot to my mental load as well as some additional hands on parenting issues because he is nowhere near as independent as a neurotypical kid his age. I do get worried thinking about the future because I think his needs could increase or change in a way that requires more physical presence from me but we also need the $$ we are spending on speech! I really wish I could scale back but my current job doesn't lend itself to that so I'd need to make a move. [/quote]

OP, SN adds a ton to your mental load. Don't underestimate that. And yes, we outsource cleaning and yard work, but couldn't if we were paying for speech or therapy like you! One thing I'd suggest is to lean into carpooling as much as possible once your 7 year old starts the weeknight activity routine. Kids love it and it helps the parents so much.

And what kind of dog do you have and how old is it? We have two dogs and while young dogs are crazy and require a ton of stimulation, ours settled way down once they hit 4-5 years old. Totally depends on the breed though. [/quote]

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