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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The most messed up part of the advice is not telling the kid the consequences in advance and expecting blind, presumably instant obedience. Sure, you don’t want your kid arguing over every little thing, but teaching a child to blindly obey authority is really dangerous. [/quote]

The kid already knows there's a rule about hitting.  It's not a surprise or gotcha or blind obedience.  It's "Don't hit".[/quote]

OP here. I do agree with this and have been implementing it to good effect (as I noted, the advice at face value could be authoritarian but with tweaks could be authoritative, which I prefer). I think it's more authoritarian when the rules are unpredictable/unknown, punishment unexpected, and punishment incommensurate with the rule violation.

We've always had a "don't hit; go to your room/think about it" policy. Never had discussions about it, despite what the troll above was suggesting. And DC rarely hits. The only thing that has changed is for other things that are less egregious we are less likely to provide warnings now, provided DC knows well what the rule is. It's working well.

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