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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your age is not the issue - you are still young. The issue is that you now have two kids and so the toll and impact of something going wrong with the third would be more difficult to manage. The stakes are higher now and that can’t be changed. He has a lower tolerance for the potential impact of something going wrong. I don’t think you can change that with data. I think you can just both talk through your hopes and fears and see where it gets you.[/quote]

I agree with this, and I had a healthy baby with no issues at 37. But she was my first (and only).

The risks are statistically low but your risk tolerance is lower because you have two kids already.

Also, one of the concerns is just "special needs." You don't even know if that's a genetic issue. Your existing kids are very young and one or both might have special needs.

I would take your husband's reservations seriously not because I think the risk is very high (again, it's statistically quite low, especially with a history of healthy pregnancies), but because I think the real issue is not whether or not you can have a healthy baby at 36, but whether your family is set up to accept the risk. You have not hit the tougher parenting years yet (I promise you, you haven't) and if he has reservations now, you need to listen.

Do not have a third child if both parents are no 100% on board.[/quote]

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