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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Exactly what are the behavior issues?[/quote]

DC is relatively quick to get emotional about things not going DC's way and sometimes lashes out (yelling or hitting at us, which is especially likely when DC is tired), and sometimes doesn't listen when asked to do something, and other run of the mill stuff. I lose my patience and raise my voice more than I care to admit and more than I think is effective. I also feel very reactive to situations at times, for example, giving threats and repeated warnings out of frustration. So it's not anything too extreme (and DC is very well behaved at school, actually), but I would like to feel like I have a better handle on things in those situations and for me and DH to be on the same page about how to appropriately respond (e.g., what sorts of consequences will their be for not listening, yelling, hitting etc.). DH is a great dad but he shoots from the hip when it comes to handling DC and I think it would help to have someone external give us guidance that we can generally keep in mind and follow.

I am not completely disregarding what the psychologist said but I will modify to suit a more authoritative style. I will also seek out someone else whose values are more consistent with ours and have that person talk with both me and DH because I really think it will help reduce some of the parenting stress and could also improve the relationships between each of us.[/quote]

OP, your DC is yelling at you and hitting you at 6 years old?  That's not minor and I agree with the psychologist.  "Don't hit" and sent to bedroom/wherever immediately.  Every time, no questions, no discussion, no arguing, no back talk.  No second chances, no counting. Just immediate consequence. [b] Children with ADHD (or anxiety or ASD) can learn this just like NT kids, it just takes more repetition and more consistency.[/b]

Hitting doesn't need a conversation.  It needs to stop.

And you should also consider a formal evaluation.  [/quote]

That's not how ASD/ADHD works.

OP -- read The Explosive Child.[/quote]

It certainly is.  But only if you do not tolerate hitting.

OP tolerates hitting, so her DC will continue swatting her when dysregulated.  No biggie.[/quote]

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