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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents didn't want me to become an actor and kept talking to me about putting "eggs in other baskets" and how impossible it was, so I chased it behind their backs. It put a massive wedge in our relationship for years. I spent weekends in New York auditioning, had appearances on TV that they never knew about and would hear about from coworkers or friends. I never felt comfortable sharing any wins with them and definitely not any struggles, I was completely alone in this pursuit. I finally pivoted into producing/production development and I'm very happy here. Did I become a movie star? No, not even close. But my pursuit led me exactly where I was meant to be. [/quote]

So your parents weren't wrong about putting your eggs in other baskets and the long-shot nature of making it as an actor. It's great you were still able to pivot to another role in film/television, but they were right about placing all of your bets on becoming an actor.[/quote]

Last comment before I go back to work haha, but I didn't need my parents to tell me this. Anything as competitive as acting or music will give you enough doses of harsh reality that you don't also need it at home. Parents can stay the good guys and the voice of belief and they'll be plenty other people along the way to knock down their son. My relationship with my parents was strained because I felt like I needed to keep this a secret, I could handle the negativity from producers, teachers and agents, but I couldn't hear it come from my own parents. It would have been nice to share in my highs and lows with them along the way, knowing they were there for me and believed in me, even if it's crazy. And my years of chasing the acting bug is what makes me a good producer, I treat them like they're humans. I consider that a success, even if it looks different from where I started. [/quote]

As a working musician with a day job, I totally agree! We all get nearly constant rejection from venues, judgement from fellow musicians (why can’t we all just get along?), lots of self-doubt … we don’t need it from our family too. I’m lucky in that I’ve got parents who will do things like go see my hard rock band play at Baltimore dive bars for 30 people.

Solidarity, my friend. [/quote]

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