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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you:
- Married or met spouse by 30
- Made $150K or more by 30
- Owned SFH by 35 
- Graduated with zero or manageable debt
- Remained thin and healthy throughout 
- Continued with hobbies or activities or travel  to make a fulfilling life

How did you manage it? What are your secrets? Did you have your mind set on all of this and what sacrifices did you make that others didn’t? Where do you think others around you went wrong, so to speak? Did you have any adversity in your life? How did you avoid all the societal traps that prevent people from achieving this? Conversely, do you think this life is as “perfect”’as it seems or is there more to it? What advice would you your children, or 18-year-olds today? [/quote]

I met my husband in college while I was dating someone else. I didn't even date him until two years after meeting him, and then I was 26 when we got married. I graduated without debt because a family trust paid for my college and grad school. I got a job in tech. Owned a condo in late 20's with DH, then we sold during a downturn in RE to buy our house which had been on the market over 8 months. I come from a long line of tall/thin people, but also I've always been active. To be fair, it helps that I don't have a sweet tooth.

I dodn't have my mind set on any of this - it's just the way things worked out. I actually dumped a guy who, on paper, looked more successful than DH. Not for DH, but just that first guy wasn't right for me. Others who were around me in college chose careers that pay less, like public school teacher, and then instead of moving somewhere like NY, picked Ohio. Yes, I've had adversity in my life but I've never viewed myself as a victim. I don't think anyone's life is perfect. Having a good marriage takes a lot of concentrated effort. I think some people (like my public school teacher friend) aren't good at thinking big picture, or can get easily sidetracked, whether by a man or something else, and some people have to grapple with addiction issues, which can thwart the best of intentions. [/quote]

I grew up LMC and wanted a meaningful job that would make the world a better place, and to my understanding teachers made good money (compared to my upbringing). Not everyone understands the value of maximizing income when they are young, nor what maximums are possible (earning $200k would be like a Dr Evil scene from Austin Powers)[/quote]

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