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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mil does this. Here is what we’ve done.

- I have DH manage most communications with her 
- I tell her less and am more vague when I do
- When we share something with her that we would rather share (recently we had a kid) DH says “I will be sending out an announcement so please do not.”

It took a few years to pull back. It was not overnight. Now it works for us. Before this I was hearing back from so many ppl, family and non family, including medical details, house troubles etc I would never have shared with so many people! We tried talking to her but it is a habit for her and how she handles everyone’s info. She is well meaning but I was uncomfortable with the mass distribution of info. [/quote]

And to add - we were also left out of the distribution of info and also not notified before or after that she would share with many or that she had told so and so. She was sharing info via mass emails, group texts, 1:1 conversations. I would have no idea. Then I would go to a gathering and 5 different people would approach me and say “oh I’m so sorry to hear about xyz”. This went on for about 9 years before I started to get really irritated. The last straw was when I had a serious medical issue recently I wanted kept private and I got a call from someone whom I hadn’t seen for years pressing for more details.[/quote]

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