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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL likes to take the lead in managing mass family communications and has a long email distro list of people she always includes.  She sends out a monthly calendar of birthdays, anniversaries, memorials, etc. plus a full contact list for family and friends who are like family. She also puts together special birthday e-greetings for everyone and is always the first to get the next congratulatory or holiday thread going. You get the picture, and it's great, except when it comes to discussing our kids.

Our kids are, and will ever be, the only grandkids. ...

I've talked to MIL about this and asked her if she could please not specifically exclude DH and I from these threads as we'd love to ...

What's my move here? MIL is a generally well-meaning person, but this behavior just stings.

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Only grandchildren for MIL and your parents but assume not the onlies for the rest of the list - aunts, friends, etc.  MIL is the self appointed matriarch and despite repeated requests will not add you/DH to the email list or is she posting all this stuff on a facebook or instagram and maybe blasting your children's personal stuff to all?  Privacy settings?    Others forwarded emails it to you?  Does the [b]creature[/b] send it bcc?  Your MIL is not a well meaning person.  Stop sharing all this stuff with her.[/quote]

The creature? Why would you refer to her MIL this way?[/quote]

I assume pp meant to type creator, and autocorrect got in the way. [/quote]

No. I wrote creature and like some later posters consider the MILbehavior to be that of a classic narcissist.  Is it nice to purposefully exclude the parents of the children? No. It is rude.  Matriarch gone wild.  If  age peers of the OP-DH [cousins - nieces,nephews of MIL]  also get  this stuff it is even more peculiar.[/quote]

Classic narcissist? Stop trying to diagnose people you know nothing about. MIL doesn't need OPs permission to talk to her family.[/quote]

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