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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think anyone thinks they are without blame 
It's just that the wives usually want the other woman to suffer for her pain and embarrassment.

It's less about blame and more about wounded pride .

Even if just briefly her husband chose another woman over her and  for that she must pay[/quote]

And because [b]of “girl code”.  It’s a mean girl, b@tch act to hook up with someone else’s boyfriend/husband. [/b] When you would never ever do it (and never have), it’s hard to comprehend.[/quote]

Can you explain “girl code?” It sounds to me like you think a “good girl” bands together with other girls in ann unspoken rule that girls would never be with a man in an exclusive relationship.

The flip side of this is that you are giving zero responsibility to men for upholding their side of exclusivity because they couldn’t possibly be responsible for saying no to a woman.

All I can see is the misogyny of this view in that all women are holding the emotional responsibility for a relationship.

I’m sure that logic is wrong so explain how I am not understanding. Thanks.

PS I am a woman and have never cheated. I’m raising a boy and hoping to make sure I don’t give him the idea that he can cheat on a girl because “girl code” means only bad girls with hit on him while he is dating someone else.[/quote]

You are way over-thinking this.  I have sons and there is a similar “bro code”.  You wouldn’t sleep with another guy’s girl.  Bros before hoes.[/quote]

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