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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you”boat wife” from prior threads?[/quote]
Yup, I am embarrassed to admit.

I feel like I’m going to be posting these same pathetic threads when I’m 90. I’ll be in the assisted living home and he will still be bugging me to get a bigger boat. Why is it so hard to leave?[/quote]

Oh no. I am so sorry. I read all the previous threads.

Look, this is obviously a really hard and complicated situation for you. But the reason you keep posting here is because deep down you know this is a bad situation, but with us you can be anonymous and be brave inside. You are struggling to be brave outside. But you are doing it. Saying no to selling the house is a step. I think you will have to live with the discomfort and learn how to manage that. Someone said upthread that you are not responsible for his emotions, and that's 100% true. I am very conflict averse and in order to avoid the discomfort of sitting with someone being upset I will do anything to change it. Even if it's bad for me or is something I don't really want to do. But with practice I am much better at doing it. Embrace your own self-preservation.

I feel like this FL move is to get you isolated so he can continue to use your income to fund his interests without regard to what's best as a couple/family unit.

Stay strong.[/quote]

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