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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would absolutely let kid wear crop top at the beac, on a weekend outing in the summer, or on vacation in a hot climate. We spend every summer visiting relatives abroad and cropped tops are a daily thing. Not sure how practical they are in the mid Atlantic. I do think it’s important to set the expectation that they are dressing for themselves - and not for the male gaze negatively or positively. That is, [b]they are not responsible for immoral behavior.thoughts of dudes and they are not dressing to attract positive attention from dudes[/b]. Kids wear uniforms during the week, so they generally are in charge of picking their weekend outfits.[/quote]

Yeah! But the predatory male prurient gaze exists and that is a fact.

Having some oblivious victims in society as easy victims for such males may help keep other children safe.[/quote]

A child who's told, "You can wear whatever you want, and if some creepy old man thinks he has a right to stare at or touch your body, that's his problem," is a lot more aware and empowered than one who is told, "Don't wear that! You'll just cause some poor guy to sin!" The latter approach makes it the girl's shame; the former makes it the man's.

Look at what's happening in Spain, with the football exec who's being charged for kissing a player after they won, and a man who pinched a journalist's butt and has been charged with sexual assault. It's possible to make the world safer and more just for our daughters. Personally I think that teaching our daughters that they have to be modest to regulate the behavior of men just perpetuates the problem.[/quote]

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