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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What horror stories, OP?

I don't know of anyone who divorced for fun, or to get half of their spouse's money. The people who do end up divorcing and getting some money would have given anything to make it work and not have to go through that hell.

So... I'm not sure where you're getting your stories from, but if you are afraid of that, then maybe marriage is not for you. No woman wants a paranoid, delusional and probably control-freaky spouse, you know. Not a good way to start life together.

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+1 to the above.

Already plenty of posts here viewing marriage as a financial tranaction entirely and urging the OP to view it that way too. He's already partway there with his concern that a divorce would financially ruin him. Not concern about the relationship, the love, any non-financial, emotional, developmental effect on any future kids. And the "she would likely have to be a SAHM" smacks of resentment and disdain for the SAH choice--resentment that's present long before the issue has even come up in real life for him and his fiancee. If OP is a decent guy who actually thinks he loves this person, they need intensive couples counseling before they marry, to lay out their real attitudes up front about SAH, incomes, etc. They need to explore why he thought he loved her enough to marry her, yet now only thinks in terms of his life (not hers...his) after they somehow inevitably divorce. I know the "get a prenup" crowd here tends to assume every marriage is a potential divorce and people should protect themselves as individuals,and always keep their guard up during marriage too. What a way to live life.

Like PP says, I don't know anyone who divorced for fun, or to get a spouse's money, etc. OP, where are you hearing your horror stories, and why is the horror in your mind only financial and not emotional? Maybe you need not to marry at all. Let her go quickly, so she can move on to someone who values her for more than her potential contribution to income. [/quote]

Easy to say that if you are not the rich person in the relationship.[/quote]

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