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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they can’t even pay for the wedding themselves, they are not ready to get married. [/quote]

It’s so outdated to expect parents to pay for a wedding. People aren’t getting married at 18 anymore. [/quote]

We paid for 12 years of private school, including boarding schools for our kids.  Four years of college.  One grad school so far.  We are paying precisely $0 for any wedding that they have (irrespective of gender) which they have all  known.  I think weddings are a huge waste of money frankly.  We will definitely give them a cash gift when they marry, then can do what they wish with that, but I hope they choose not to spend it on one day.[/quote]

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This is us too!  My job is to prepare them to be adults who can take care of themselves.  Once they are done with school, they are off my books!!! And I don't believe they should marry while in school (university and grad school included). I will give a large cash gift.  They can blow it all on a wedding or use it for a down payment, or blow it all on fancy cars (I would judge the latter, but not out loud to them); it's none of my business what they do with my gift.  Oh, and I have all girls.

As PP stated I paid for 15 (big 3- including prek and primary) of private school, undergrad, and grad school (one in law other in medicine, third undecided).  I'm not paying for a wedding!

They will get a trust at 37 (but they don't know this) when it no longer impacts their ambition or lifestyle.  [/quote]

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