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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not a parent of three but I have had several of them tell/warn me to stop at two so I don't think you're entirely alone in your sentiment, OP. [/quote]

That’s interesting. Are your two kids of different genders?  [b]I had two girls and not only did no one ever tell/warn me to stop at two, [/b]I cannot even count the number of times people (both strangers and close friends!) would ask if we were going to have a third in order to “try for a boy.”

I think either way - telling someone to stop at two or encouraging someone to try for a boy - is pretty rude and presumptuous. Unless you solicited that advice from them. 
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Same to the bolded. We have 2 boys, 3rd is a girl. People were so rude in asking if we were going to “try for a girl”. People still do sometimes ask if we are going to have a 4th but I don’t mind it as there isn’t the implication that we are trying for a specific gender. 
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I don't know a single person who would ask or expect anyone to have a fourth child. I would like to research your social circle.[/quote]

I think it’s probably due to my location. Where I live now, having 2 kids is the most common but lots of families have 3 and a solid amount have 4. It’s fairly uncommon to see families with an only child.

When I lived in a very expensive city, people viewed my family size as big whereas here it seems very normal.

I think this circles back to the discussion on standards; it’s much easier and less expensive to provide a good standard of life for a larger family where I live now. [/quote]

DP here. The onlies we know are usually not by choice. They have limited resources or older and couldn’t have another. Or some marital problems or situations where one parent didn’t want kids and one was the compromise.[/quote]

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