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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To PP with teens, do you live with their dad? How often are you there during his custodial time? How much of that time is theirs alone with their dad?

They don't want you there during their limited time with father. It's not personal and you can't change it. Complaining to BF will not make it better. [/quote]

He has full custody. Mom is MIA as she moved to the west coast and left the kids behind. Dad spends tons of time with them.

I have my own place but am there about half the time because he considers that better than leaving them alone while he goes to visit me.

If you read my posts, my very point is that their behavior is vague enough that I can’t and don’t complain about it.

My main point is, this affects my feelings about the relationship. I am mulling whether or not it is a deal breaker for me. If someone’s seven year old was repeatedly rude to me, I’d probably be out the door. It’s just not a good feeling. I’m offering the potential perspective of the op’s boyfriend. Sometimes I have the attitude, eh, they are teens this is to be expected big deal. Other times I am like, hmm, not sure this dynamic is worth sticking around because it kind of sucks,

If we break up, I’m only going to date men who are childless or whose kids have successfully launched. [/quote]

PP can you put yourself in their shoes at all? Mom abandoned them, which will likely f them up for life and now dad has some lady they don't like there a LOT of the time, (50%!!!) at family dinner, sleeping over, taking up their dad's time and attention when they are a small amount of time out from life altering traumas - the family blowing up and parental abandonment? I think it would be best for ALL if you moved on as you don't seem like someone with the amount of empathy these kids need. [/quote]

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