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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In front of you?

My boyfriends teenage sons are fairly polite and civil to me in front of him.

They are much less nice to me when he is around.

Which feels very….manipulative.

I haven’t decided yet if it’s a deal breaker [/quote]

Oh big typo sorry

They are much LESS nice to me when he IS T around. Curt one word answer, unpleasant facial expressions. Nothing solid I can report to my boyfriend but just a very unfriendly vibe.

I did not meet my boyfriend until two years after the divorce so no I am not the AP[/quote]
Why do you even need to be around them when your boyfriend isn’t there? They are allowed to not like you.[/quote]

They don’t need to like me, but they do need to be civil and polite to me, as I am to them. I’m not alone with them for long stretches. I’m talking like, we are sitting at dinner and dad goes inside to get something and their attitude completely changes for the few minutes thwt he is gone,[/quote]

You aren't mature enough for this situation. Please end it[/quote]

You think it’s immature to expect teens to treat people in a civil manner?

This board of full of so many bitter exes who don’t want their exes dating or remarrying…..[/quote]

It shows a lack of parenting knowledge. Teens are rude a lot. It doesn't mean you have to tolerate it, but it's normal. They're especially difficult if they have experienced something traumatic (check) and if they feel they are being forced to do something they don't want to (check). [/quote]

Yes, these are interesting perspectives. Much of the time I’m able to be like, eh, they are teens, this is normal, don’t let it bother you. Other times I am like, well this may be normal but it kind of sucks all the same. I try to give them a lot of space to be with their dad without me around.[/quote]

It's fine if you aren't cut out to be with teens who have experienced their mother's abandonment. That's understandable. But that's what this situation is, and it sounds like you haven't opened your eyes to it. That's the real issue here. 
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