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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven’t read the replies but yes I would schedule my in-laws when I know my husband could be there. This is not selfish, it’s normal. I would just tell them he “likely” has to work so how’s the 26th (or whatever day you want.)[/quote]

Exactly.  It makes no sense to host them on a day that your husband could have to work on a moments notice.  The in laws still get their day with their son and grandchild.  And you get to enjoy Christmas.  It’s just good planning.[/quote]

+2 my IL’s wouldn’t even want to be there if my husband wasn’t there or would have to leave or whatever. I don’t understand all these people who are clamoring to spend time with just their DIL and the grandkids.[/quote]

Maybe they are clamoring because their definition of family is more inclusive than yours. Pity you can’t understand or even imagine that.[/quote]

No I can’t imagine it, honestly. My IL’s wouldn’t want to be hosted at my house for a holiday if my husband wasn’t there. They’d go to one of their other children’s houses (DH’s siblings) even though neither of them have kids. And then see all of us including DH a different day. We’re all grown ups, we can handle doing “Christmas” on a slightly different day. [/quote]

My ILs are also grown ups. They can spend time with people who aren’t related to them by blood because they’ve taken the time and care to build good relationships. Sounds like your family hasn’t bothered to do that. Different strokes..[/quote]

You must be very close to your IL’s …… [/quote]

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