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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not allow it or encourage it. A 14-year-old is not in a position to "date" anyone. If they're a boy, they don't have the resources to take a girl out on dates and I'm certainly not footing the bill for his romantic life.

It's fine to like and have romantic feelings for someone, but I don't think it's healthy for kids at this age to have entangled, adult-like, exclusive relationships that come with all of the obligations and rollercoasters that come with engaging in those things. Not to mention the physical ramifications such as pregnancy and STDs.

I think I might not encourage it but would be tolerable of a 17 or 18 year old starting to do that stuff, but definitely not a 14 year old. They're an absolute mental and emotional mess and I've seen too many toxic and destructive boyfriend-girlfriend entanglements to encourage that for my kids at that age.[/quote]

Checking the fuel lines on the helicopter I see… I think the goal is a relationship, no?  There are stages to it you must go through. ‘Tolerable’ behavior at 17–18??!!!  I hope this kid of yours isn’t a son for you to ‘marry’.

Ignore this enmeshed poster Op and go with your gut but I think a date on the town - yes funded by mommy dearest - is perfectly in order at 14.[/quote]

Suit yourself. Other parents who went down the path you’re encouraging of letting their 14 year olds date have posted in this thread the harmful impacts and their regrets for not pulling back on it in hindsight. But you think I’m the enmeshed one?

Maybe if you were more concerned with being a parent instead of your kid’s friend, you wouldn’t be afraid of saying no or drawing a boundary now and again.

Permissive parents like you are doing yourself and your kids no favors.[/quote]

Not permissive at all but realized long ago they have to be guided - and that includes explaining consequences without all the FUD you seem to be bringing.  Your method is how to raise an odd-ball.[/quote]

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